I’m a believer that
better sex is possible.
Longer-term relationships and marriages get a bad rap for being monotonous and routine. But when relationships are healthy, loving, safe, and supportive, they also offer opportunities to explore and embrace our sexuality fully and authentically.
How do I know?
I’ve spent nearly two decades learning everything I can about intimacy and how people connect.
I’m a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist (RMFT), and obtained my PhD in Human Sexuality.
I’ve researched what turns us on, when we want sex (and when and why we don’t), the biggest misconceptions we have about men and women’s sexuality, and what the rest of us can learn from the most sexually satisfied couples.
Along the way I’ve written a book, become a regularly sought-after sex expert for numerous media outlets, and authored dozens of articles for Psychology Today on topics like:
Low Sexual Desire/Libido
Mismatched Sexual Desires
Sexual Incompatibility
Sexual Arousal and Orgasmic Difficulties
Erectile Dysfunction
Premature Ejaculation
Affairs
Pornography
Sexual Abuse
Sexual Trauma
Sex is so much more than a physical act.
Our closest relationships have a huge impact on our lives.
As I’ve studied and grown my clinical practice, I’ve seen how sex is connected to every part of our intimate relationships. It can let us feel close to our partner. It can allow us to experience pleasure, safety, affection, and love. But for sex to be "good," our relationship needs to be functioning in a healthy, loving, and respectful way.
I take the time to connect with you.
Although my speciality is sex, I know our sex lives don’t exist in isolation.
I work with couples and individuals of all genders and sexual orientations to address the pieces around sex, so they can connect more fully and genuinely.
Many of my clients experience a wide range of personal and relational concerns that impact their sexuality and relationships. They may have concerns around:
Anxiety
Stress
Depression
Marriage Dissatisfaction
Affairs
Dissolution of Trust
Communication Breakdown
Navigation of life transitions, such as the entry into Parenthood
By addressing these underlying influences, my clients can reconnect with their own sexuality, and ultimately connect more intimately with their romantic partners.
The Book
If there is one thing we know about men and sex it is that men are always in the mood. Any time, any place. Right?
Wrong.
Men’s sexual desire has long been depicted as high, simple, and unwavering. But the new research around men’s desire tells us this is far from true; and that good sex and relationships are suffering from these long-held misconceptions.
In “Not Always in the Mood: The New Science on Men, Sex, and Relationships” sex researcher and relationship therapist Sarah Hunter Murray presents a lively, timely, and critical exploration of the newest, most surprising science on men and sex, shattering myths about men’s sexuality and helping today’s couples connect more deeply and authentically than ever before.
JED DIAMOND, PHD, AUTHOR OF "12 RULES FOR GOOD MEN" AND "THE IRRITABLE MALE SYNDROME"
“This is the book we’ve been waiting to read... a book I highly recommend for all men and women who want to improve their sex and love lives.”
One by one, Murray examines the most detrimental, deep-held beliefs we as a society promote around men and their desire, and dive into how they affect our intimate relationships daily – and what to do about it.
Do men actually crave and enjoy sex more than women? Do men “do the wanting” and prefer the chase? Where do they stand on sexual rejection? What’s the deal with porn?
DR. KATHERINE HALL, PRESIDENT OF THE SOCIETY FOR SEX THERAPY AND RESEARCH, AUTHOR OF "RECLAIMING YOUR SEXUAL SELF: HOW YOU CAN BRING DESIRE BACK INTO YOUR LIFE"
“A long overdue and much needed resource.”
Answering these questions and more, this is a book for modern women and men alike. Moving beyond typical “here’s what he likes” sexual tips, the book empowers readers and offers a completely new perspective on sexuality that will validate men’s experiences and help their partners to a greater understanding of the psychology and emotions surrounding them.